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Week #1 – A brief history of me and penpalling

Hello, everyone!

It’s time to begin the series of weekly posts on my new blog. And since most of you, dear readers, love letter writing as much as I do, I thought it might be a good idea to start off with a post about penpalling. So, this week’s theme will be : my penpalling journey.

Pending letters
Some of the letters I received (those that are currently awaiting a reply)

For a start, I must say that I am still quite “new” to that wonderful hobby, compared to those who’ve done it for 10, 20, even 30 or 40 years. I had my very first penpal at school, ten years ago (I was 11 back then), because my class was taking part in an exchange with another class in the USA, so we were all assigned a penpal. However, I wouldn’t consider that as a real penpalship, because back when I was 11, I could barely speak English, so the letters weren’t even a page long, and all that I wrote was what the teacher told the class to write. What a thrilling exchange, isn’t it?! So, needless to say that the “penpalship” ended as soon as the school year did.

Yet, this was enough for the “snail mail virus” to bite me. When I eventually got a computer and Internet at home (when I was 15), one of the first things I did was browsing through penpals websites to find a girl or two to exchange emails with. Yes, I started with emails, because I didn’t feel confident enough to give out my home address to people from the Internet (and my mother would have never allowed me to, either). After a couple of years exchanging emails with people around the world (none of these penpalships lasted for more than a couple of months, though), I finally decided to give snail mail a try back in September 2011.

First letter
My very first letter, received in September 2011, all the way from Sweden.

And oh my, what a cleaver decision it has been! Never ever have I regretted it, not even for a second. My very first penpal was a boyΒ from Sweden. We exchanged very interesting letters for six months before he disappeared without a word, I’m still trying to figure out why. That was my first and only experience of penpalling with men, by the way.

The disappointment of being dumped by a penpal, with a message explaining why or even with no reason appearing, happened to me a couple of times. I also had to drop penpals myself, too. I guess this is part of the “penpalling life, I’m pretty sure it has happened to all of you, too. It hurts, but the good things penpalling has earned be definitely overweight the bad aspects. Now, when I think about it, I can really say I have real friends, people who won’t forget of me for the only reason that we don’t see each other daily, and people who really know me, who I don’t mind sharing personal thought with. Of course, not all my penpals are that close friends of mine, but some definitely are. Before starting penpalling I didn’t think it was possible to make friends on a distance, now I know it is.

Penpalling material at the ready! (I love deco tapes and pens, I guess you can tell)
Penpalling material at the ready! (I love deco tapes and pens, I guess you can tell)

I have had a quite long period, last year, during which I wasn’t feeling any motivated for writing letters. At first I tried to force myself to write, because I didn’t want my penpals to have to wait too long for their replies. It quickly became more of a duty than a hobby, and I even though, once, to stop completely. But then I thought of all the friends I’d lost and decided to take a break instead. Things have calmed down in my life, and the writing mood came back, slowly. I guess it’s just like with everything: there are times you’re in the mood, and others you aren’t, that’s just how life is and there’s no reason to force yourself when the mood isn’t there!

Now, the next step would be to meet my penpals in person. So far it has never happened, but since I am going to move near the German border next September, Β I hope I’ll get the chance to meet some of my German penpals then! That’d be amazing.

How long have you been into penpalling? How did you start?

And now that I'm done with this blog post - off to write a letter! :D
And now that I’m done with this blog post – off to write a letter! πŸ˜€


Hello there!

You may already know me, if you were a follower of my previous blog “Me, my mail and I”. Indeed, I’m not new to the blogging world, I was previously running a mail related blog, but since I’m waaay less active in snail mail now due to too much work and a sudden envy of dedicating a significant part of my free time to other hobbies (letter writing used to be my main hobby in the past, now it isn’t anymore), this blog was kind of… dead. So, here’s the new one.

What will I talk about in “Enjoy the Silence”? Β I’ll write one post per week (every Friday) about… well, a lot about letter writing, my penpals etc., so if the joys of old fashioned correspondence doesn’t move you a bit, you’d better leave this blog now πŸ˜€ BUT! It won’t be my only subject of conversation. I’ll simply talk about my daily life, little joys, things I enjoy. And about books, of course.

A brief introduction of myself, for those who don’t know me yet. My name’s Maude, or Tari as this is the name I use everywhere on the Internet. I’m a girl in her twenties, university student, living in Lyon, France. A day-dreamer, much introverted, rather ochlophobic girl who enjoys nothing more than spending time in her little world, which is filled with letters, books, music, and dreams of all sorts.

Btw, in case you were wondering, yes, I did name my blog “Enjoy the silence” because of this song. It’s one of my favorites πŸ™‚

Enjoy your visit on my blog!

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